So the Girl and the Kid and I moved about 8 years ago from FL to MD. One of the benefits of this was space from the Girl's folks. What I have come to accept in the 12 years we have been together now is that my wife is the adult in the family. The narcissistic parents had to learn to fend for themselves a bit when she left, although they continue to call her almost every day to vent their frustrations, with each other, with other family, with the world.
In the intervening time the Kid has grown up and become aware that grandma in particular just isn't a very nice person. Its hard to watch your kid slowly realize that this person that they really tried to love just doesn't know how to love them back. Grandpa is a little better, a perpetual victim but he has a lot of love for his granddaughter and we have tried very had to maintain that.
They are in extraordinarily poor health due to decades of no exercise, fast food, and bad luck. Their house is a two story pack-ratters squat at this point, full of random shit, guns, and stolen school supplies from when her mom was a teacher. Since they insist that any repairs are 'too expensive' and they pester old friends from their temple to fix stuff every now and then. Neither of them can take the stairs, and the chair lift they got for free ten years ago is broken and they insist they can't afford to repair it.
Now they have COVID. Mom got it first, after disregarding COVID protocols over and over (going maskless to parties, restaurants, etc). Her first response was to try and keep anybody from finding out. People she had been around? She refused to tell them. To his credit her husband called the temple cantor, who is a massive gossip, and told her.
She then got him sick (on purpose we think, she kept going into his room and trying to get close to him. These are people that haven't shared a bedroom in YEARS). So far their symptoms are mild but since both have every single comorbidity that exists they were taken the hospital as a matter of precaution. And of course, they are depending on my wife to figure shit out for them. Neither is vaccinated, they apparently thought a magic carpet full of vaccine and snacks would be deposited on their doorstep I guess? My wife called and made their appointments for them. But COVID found them first. Now my wife is dealing with other family, who are concerned, and her parents (who are both angry WITH HER).
Now, in the midst of a pandemic my wife will have to fly to Florida and figure their shit out for them again. I am fucking furious. Is that wrong of me? I don't know. But fuck them.
My parents by contrast, despite being a couple of years older, are healthy and have just gotten their second vaccine shots. So that puts me at ease a bit. Anyway, sorry to vent here but I'm trying to be cool so the Kid doesn't get upset and be supportive of my wife that has it a lot worse than I do.